The metaphor fits perfectly. It visually illustrates the masculine frame people talk about in a way that is transposed to our body language.
I will add that God becomes our breakwater along with building healthy brotherhood. Both of which have slowly been eroded by society in most men's lives. Leaving them yearning for support and then looking in the wrong places for it.
Very well said. Even not married, my close family and friends have been surprised to learn how much I feel and remember their words or my circumstances. I remember my sister literally said once, “I just kind of thought you were like a wall.” It was a good discussion, but the point is very well made - we are expected to not be shaken, but then assumed to be rough shod and unaware.
Mate, don't you know it! I had an experience last week when my wall got overwhelmed and when i opened up, my wife was dumbfounded in how much I took off her and the kids hands. All I can say is thank God for the mass and the sacraments. As a man the only time I feel fully seen, understood and loved perfectly is within Him.
I love this article, and the fact that you sought out your husband's collaboration. Wonderful.
As a single father, I am that man most of the time (the breakwater), but certainly not all the time. We are human, too, and as another commenter said here, we need our own breakwater (safe habour) as well...who is Our Lord Jesus Christ.
"Come to Me all ye who labour and are weary, and I will give you rest." Amen. He is the Ultimate Breakwater, the Alpha and the Omega. God bless.
I'm a caretaker for my wife. In response to my sharing her this article, she shared an info graphic about "Ring Theory, supporting people in times of crisis"
The metaphor fits perfectly. It visually illustrates the masculine frame people talk about in a way that is transposed to our body language.
I will add that God becomes our breakwater along with building healthy brotherhood. Both of which have slowly been eroded by society in most men's lives. Leaving them yearning for support and then looking in the wrong places for it.
So so beautiful, I forwarded to my husband so he will read it. Thank you, God Bless both of you
Thank you friend!
Thank you. You have put into words, what I have been unable to say.
Well done, sir.
Very well said. Even not married, my close family and friends have been surprised to learn how much I feel and remember their words or my circumstances. I remember my sister literally said once, “I just kind of thought you were like a wall.” It was a good discussion, but the point is very well made - we are expected to not be shaken, but then assumed to be rough shod and unaware.
We’ve been off course for 60 years or so. But the tide may now be starting to turn. Writing like this helps.
Mate, don't you know it! I had an experience last week when my wall got overwhelmed and when i opened up, my wife was dumbfounded in how much I took off her and the kids hands. All I can say is thank God for the mass and the sacraments. As a man the only time I feel fully seen, understood and loved perfectly is within Him.
I love this article, and the fact that you sought out your husband's collaboration. Wonderful.
As a single father, I am that man most of the time (the breakwater), but certainly not all the time. We are human, too, and as another commenter said here, we need our own breakwater (safe habour) as well...who is Our Lord Jesus Christ.
"Come to Me all ye who labour and are weary, and I will give you rest." Amen. He is the Ultimate Breakwater, the Alpha and the Omega. God bless.
I think we might be having him on here weekly to cover the masculine side of keeping a home!
I suppose another analogy would be husband as a tuned mass damper (TMD), that prevents tall buildings from collapsing during an earthquake
I'm a caretaker for my wife. In response to my sharing her this article, she shared an info graphic about "Ring Theory, supporting people in times of crisis"
“I am a rock, I am an island,
And a rock feels no pain,
And an island never cries.”
Paul Simon
The words that I internalized to make it to adulthood!
I love this! God bless our breakwater men!